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All my life, I’ve heard a refrain that’s especially prevalent in working class families; it’s a version of this — I just want my kids to have a better life than I did.  Since becoming a dad, it’s a sentiment that’s been easy to aspire to. Even though I have had a pretty good life […]

I’m a huge sentimentalist when it comes to my son, Noah. Duh. He’s my sweet boy with the cartoon-bright brown eyes and the effortless joy and curiosity and the earth-shaking smile. I stare at him with wonder multiple times a day, and as he approaches his third birthday, I can’t believe the novelty hasn’t worn […]

Ever experienced a tornado? I have. I’m the father of a 2.5-year-old boy. Like a tornado, he often strikes without warning. And while he may rage for a short duration, the damage left in his wake can be catastrophic. Our furniture, our walls and of course, my testicles, can all testify to this. We’re making […]

If you’ve spent any time on this blog, you know two things: 1. I’ve been through an ordeal, and 2. I write like someone who wants you to feel it. Indulging my psychological torment isn’t really how I prefer to pass the time, though. I like to think I’m more than the craziest thing that’s […]

It’s late and my inclination to self-edit and polish my words on the way out of my fingertips is non-existent tonight. So stream of conscience is what you’ll get, because I’ve been eager to update you. Last week, I and six other offspring of fertility fraud (mom’s doctors = our biological fathers) partook in two […]

In August this year, my brother CJ took his life. It’s been five months, disorienting as that is to write. The permanence and the suddenness of it still defies words, and because words are how I make sense of the world, I’m still not sure how to digest the act of his suicide. I’ve certainly […]

10 months ago, I confirmed that Dr. Morris Wortman, my mother’s fertility doctor, is my biological father. Two weeks ago, I sat in front of the TV and watched myself on Good Morning America as I discussed that and more with Nightline anchor, Juju Chang. If you’ve been following along, the above is both a concise summary of all […]

If you invested any of your time and energy with me while my story was unfolding, I owe you an apology. Eight months ago, I buried the lede about the biggest revelation of this ongoing story, and then I disappeared. Spoiler: my biological father is, in fact, my mother’s fertility doctor. I could bore you […]

People told me parenting would be hard. No one told me it might be because I wouldn’t feel particularly connected to my own child. Or that shaming myself into silence for feeling that way would only make it harder. It was the 4th of July. After struggling to hand-feed my stubborn 14-year-old diva Shih Tzu […]